Negative Self Talk is a self fulfilling prophecy.
The things we say matter. We’ve become almost hyper focused on making sure we say positive things to our kids, friends, co-workers – afraid to say the wrong thing or hurt someone’s feelings. But we have no problem with negative self-talk and self-deprecating humor. We laugh, post the memes, and brush it off – but the more often we say those things, the more we imprint the thoughts on our brains. When your brain starts believing these things, you show up exactly the way you are telling your brain you would.
I’m a hot mess. I’m always late. I hate working out. I’m a procrastinator. I have no willpower. I’m good at starting projects, but I never finish them. There’s never enough time. Drama seems to follow me. These statements FEEL true and you may have evidence to support them, but they are really just thoughts we have about ourselves. And ultimately, they all boil down to “I’m not good enough.” Would you say that to someone you love?
What’s the solution? It sounds simple: Change your thoughts. It is simple, but it’s not easy! Years of negativity doesn’t just go away overnight. That’s why coaching is so helpful – a coach is someone who walks with you through the journey of changing your thoughts. Where do these thoughts come from? What are the feelings around them? What actions do you take when you think that way? I’d love to be that coach as you go from a hot mess to a confident, calm presence for your family.
